I remember when Mom’s job was to stay home while Dad’s was the one that worked, you know, the breadwinner. Wow have times changed! I know I am dating myself, but one income was all that was needed. If you are like most people today you have not one job but two or more; and if a couple, they have two or more as well. Hard to wrap yourself around this ‘prescribed solution’ while each of us hold on to some possible good news on the horizon.
I remember what Dad had made reference to, in one of my many counseling sessions, this time on changing my current behavior; “Son, you will never change your behavior until it hurts enough” Using one definition resource: Wikipedia. defines that “behavior is the range of actions and mannerisms made by individuals, organisms, systems, or artificial entities in conjunction with themselves or their environment…It is the response of the system or organism to various stimuli or inputs, whether internal or external, conscious or subconscious, overt or covert, and voluntary or involuntary”
Dad went on to say that for me to change I have two choices, one was to listen to his advise and shape up now or he will beat it out of me! The true understanding did not come till later in life to be – Only two ways to change ones belief system, one is through a constant exposure to the new idea; the other was SHOCK. Experiencing shock is reaching beyond your PAIN threshold or hitting ones true bottom.
Question is – Does it hurt enough?